The first step after a breakup is to release your emotions—sadness, anger, fear, confusion, and all the rest.
Emotions don’t always make sense, yet they shape who we are. If we suppress them, starting a new relationship becomes a disaster. Why? Because we attract what we suppress and end up repeating the old story.
The best approach is feeling-based and body-oriented therapy, which also helps release the deeper traumas that contributed to the separation.
Ask Yourself:
Could you speak freely and share all your emotions?
Could you be authentic?
Could you solve your money problems together?
Was your sex life fulfilling?
These questions bring clarity and reveal the real issues behind the breakup.
What Happens When Someone Breaks Up With Us
We blame ourselves.
We ignore red flags.
We lose self-awareness.
We take all the responsibility for the breakup.
This affects:
Confidence
Self-worth
Our future outlook
How we deal with loneliness and self-love
We also grieve—not only the person, but the future we imagined with them.
Stop the Idealization
You are not really missing them.
You are missing:
The version of them you idealized.
The future you thought they promised.
The moments you believed were the truth.
The comfort of certainty.
The illusion that they were right for you.
Be shamelessly honest with yourself. Clarity heals, idealization traps.
Write down what actually happened.
What did they really do?
What didn’t they do?
No fantasies—just facts.
The Foundation of a Long-Term Relationship
There are three essential elements:
You feel seen.
You feel supported.
You feel safe.
If these three are missing, the relationship cannot last.
Break the Repetition of the Mind
Science has shown: emotions create thoughts, but thoughts cannot create emotions.
This is confirmed by psychology, neuroscience, meditation, and spiritual traditions.
That’s why we keep replaying the same thoughts about the relationship—until we release the emotions underneath.
Every minute spent releasing negative emotions saves you at least 20 minutes of overthinking.
✨ The path forward is not about erasing the past—it’s about releasing the emotions tied to it, so you can live with clarity and freedom.
My Video: What to Do After You Separate? https://youtu.be/IknOHXYWDAo
My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast5/What-to-Do-After-You-Separate.mp3