Most of our struggles in relationships come from wrong expectations about love.
The three biggest challenges in marriage are communication, sex, and money.
If even one of these is broken, the relationship will suffer.
Take sex as an example:
We all have desires. If we can’t live them inside our marriage, they will show up outside of it. The more rules and demands you place on your partner, the less happy you become. As Tony Robbins says:
👉 The fewer rules you impose, the happier you are.
Instead of chasing perfection in love, learn to accept, reduce demands, and open your heart. A big heart that tries to solve problems with love will find relationships much easier.
💡 The Lies We Learned About Love
Love is the most wanted thing in life—yet also the most misunderstood.
We confuse it with the illusions sold to us through:
Novels
Movies
Songs
Advertisements
These are not real love. They feed us false ideas that lead to disappointment: the myth of everlasting passion, the soul partner who solves everything, or chemistry that lasts forever.
⚡ Chemistry vs. Compatibility
One of the biggest mistakes:
👉 Confusing chemistry with compatibility.
You can feel strong chemistry with someone and still end up in a toxic relationship.
You cannot love a narcissist or a cheater just because the sex is good.
Real love is about deeper connection—not excitement alone.
Science shows we often mistake stress and anxiety for attraction. That spark, that “butterfly” feeling, is often just adrenaline. But adrenaline is not love.
Ask yourself next time:
❓ Do I feel safe with this person, or just stimulated?
In truth, healthy love is:
Safe and stimulating
Peaceful and passionate
Respectful without showing off
Growth-oriented without pressure
🛑 Why Boundaries Matter
Love without boundaries is not love—it’s self-abandonment.
Don’t give up your hobbies, friends, or personal growth for your partner.
No relationship should stop you from therapy, meditation, sports, or your spiritual path.
God (or your inner truth) must remain more important than your partner.
Boundaries protect love. They keep the right people in and push the wrong ones out.
🔥 Drama vs. Peace
We’re addicted to drama because it feels exciting. But real love is not chaos.
Peace is not boring.
Passion is not toxic.
A good relationship makes exciting things even better, but also makes ordinary moments feel safe and fulfilling.
Ask yourself:
How do you feel with your partner on a normal day, without distractions, without your phone, without doing anything special?
⚔️ Conflict Is Not the Enemy
Conflicts don’t ruin relationships—how you fight does.
Healthy couples don’t avoid arguments. They use them to grow.
Real love is not loud; it’s quiet.
Connection means being seen even when you’re imperfect.
True love stays with you through the hard times.
You don’t find a dream partner—you choose every day to build one another.
Love is a commitment to grow and heal together, not to seek perfection.
🧠 Childhood Patterns
Most people repeat three emotional patterns in their relationships, all rooted in childhood. These patterns are never healthy, and they keep us stuck.
Ask yourself:
What must someone do so you feel loved?
Are your answers (kiss, gift, attention) just surface gestures?
Or do they reflect the heart’s attitude behind the action?
A kiss without love is nothing. A kiss with presence, tenderness, and truth—that’s love.
❤️ The Essence of Love
Real love is not about excitement or perfection. It is about:
Safety without boredom
Passion without chaos
Growth without pressure
Boundaries without distance
Connection without conditions
Love is not something you find—it is something you choose, protect, and grow every single day.
My Video: How to Let Go of Wrong Ideas About Love? https://youtu.be/TUS4_p8dQ8E
My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast5/How-to-Let-Go-of-Wrong-Ideas-About-Love.mp3