The codependency is often interpreted as love.
When our
1.) Mood,
2.) Happiness,
3.) and Identity,
depend on our darling we are codependent.
“When we are no longer independent from our partner then we are in slavery.
And Slavery is never love.” Bhagwan/Osho
And this happens quite often in our first love. –
We want to experience our symbiosis like a baby to a mother with our darling.
Because we have that deep longing for love and for a symbiosis!
When we (my twin brother and me) were born, my mother had infectious jaundice, and we stayed in Quarantine for over 3 months in a big hall separated from other babies.
We could never experience this symbiosis with our mother; our mother didn’t want us, and my oldest sister hated me.
We had to struggle to approach girls in the puberty.
And it went worse and worse… Until I (with 25years) decided to go to groups organized from devotees of Bhagwan.
Because I had such a longing for love and the symbiosis.
When I was in love, I depended so much on the presence of my darling. Without my darling, I felt incomplete, alone and was afraid to lose her.
Still, I had to function normally.
Bhagwan/Osho recommended for codependency to make meditation and body and feelings orientated therapy like:
1.) Bioenergetic,
2.) Encounter,
3.) Primal,
4.) Tantra.
Together with meditation, we become free and independent. And this worked out also for me.
Bhagwan/Osho taught love is only possible:
1.) When both are independent.
2.) That we give our partner total freedom to do whatever he/she wants.
3.) That we never want to control our partner.
3.) Jealousy is the opposite of love.
4.) We accept and love our partner as he/she is.
5.) We accept all of our partner’s emotions.
6.) We get rid of the fear to lose our partner.
7.) We learn to love ourselves.
8.) We forgive us and our partner.
I recommend Partnership exercises:
1.) We chose for a particular time one is the slave the other is the master… To find out what our partner wants.
2.) To make tantra and other sexual games.
3.) We change our gender for a time to experience how it is to be the opposite sex.
My Video: Don’t interpret Codependency as Love! https://youtu.be/qwYd7NujrVo
My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.
My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Don%E2%80%99t+interpret+Codependency+as+Love.mp3