The average lying in every conversation is 10 times…
Even if you omit something in your story you lie…
And that is the most used practice to lie… because you can say afterward; Oh, I forgot that…
The real conversation is rather more an indirect approach to get the information that you need…
Because most of the people are lying on direct question that they don’t like…
How to find it out?
The body language is not matching the spoken words.
People who lie, they move their body less when they speak than when they are honest…
How to find out through 3 Questions if the person is lying?
TED
Tell me what happens. – Let them tell the whole story!
Explain me… Go more in details after the story…
Describe me…
Instead to ask: With which guy you had been out… Tell me what you did last night…
Explain me how important is that relationship for you…
Describe me what you want to happen in this relationship.
Those questions allow the people to tell a story…
So more I get you to tell a story so more I experience you and get the idea, your intention…
You tell me what is important for you…
And then I have so much information from you that I can ask the best questions that I like to get answered…
And that you can apply on every conversation…
If I ask directly this specific thing for that I need the answer people tend to lie if this is uncomfortable…
We can’t get go straight to the answer that we need, we rather narrow it down…
For instance, If I ask directly You, have you killed that person…
You will not do so… So, you need the information have you been in this place… the motive…
Be curious, ask questions…
You have to adapt to that person, instead, to control that person.
If I stop you in telling your story, I hurt the conversation and shut you down…
Instead, wait, let them tell everything what they want… And then ask your question.
There are problem solvers, instructional…
And people who are like to talk about their emotions and don’t want a solution or instruction…
This person is identity based… Problem solvers have no chances… Let them tell their story…
If you want to find out more if the person is lying…
Ask questions and if one question is answered in a different way, body language, voice… you have a glue …You recognize that…
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