We learned that detachment is better than to be identified with a subject…
And this can be true, and can be wrong…
For instance:
Do you love being detached?
You work detached and the fun is over?
Are you passionate about training your skills?
You are very passionate about doing your things and then you fail again and again…
For instance, you play football or play tennis or fight…
The best football players, tennis players, or fighters are always calm because only then can they be in the flow and effective…
We should go deep in love…
Love without awareness is sorrow, tells us the Gita.
This means we should be able to distance ourselves from what we love…
If we are enslaved in the relationship and call that love, that is nonsense.
Only when we are independent of our darling, we can love!
So more we are independent so deeper can be our love!
We need also for love some detachment…
Detachment means you don’t care how you work?
Detachment means you don’t care for the result?
Detachment means to work effective, be relaxed, be in the flow, to do your best and don’t focus your mind on the results, instead focus your mind on the work that you do right now.
The solution is not found in the problem.
You have to go out of the problem so that you can look at it, and make an assessment.
The detachment paradox…
If you are too obsessed or over-attached to a problem you become ineffective…
If you don’t care, you can’t be effective in solving the problem…
We can have detachment from ourselves, from the Timelines of the goals that we have, and from our performance….
If you are over-detached in these 3 areas, your results will get worse…and your life will get worse and up to 10 times harder…
For instance, you can’t pay your bills, your relationships are messing up…
And you are detached?
Detached is about focusing on your chosen subject and you let go of what doesn’t work, what doesn’t fit.
Excess importance that you give to a subject is equal to anxiety …
And that drains out your brain…
To care too much, that blocks the energy or to be in the flow…
You need to be relaxed to be effective …
Excess importance on goals, people, and outcomes makes it worse.
We need to have proper detachment to be effective.
Detachment from ourselves…
Too much importance or to care too much about ourselves is:
For instance:
Dating…
How other people see us or how we come across to other people.
How much respect or attention do we get…
How we pose…
We make the whole thing about us.
Instead of serving well other people.
If we care, about how we serve well other people, we get respect, love, attention…
Then we relax and can go in the flow.
Detachment for timeline from our goals:
I have to be a Millionaire with 30 …
Get married with 24, kids with 25, own firm with 27, and first heart attach when?
And that can mess up…
Relax and be effective, do your best… and most of the things/people/environment you don’t have under your control.
Life is different than we plan.
Pressure creates Diamonds and destroys life!
High pressure makes everybody ineffective.
When I was the supervisor, my job was to make the people relaxed to be effective…
Take the tension away and things are working much better.
Pressure on goals is focused on short-term results and not on long-term results that we mostly need for our goals.
I think, let God decide when I get the things…
Let me decide to do my best!
And I got so much more, but never to the time I wanted it desperately! Fuxx you …
Go out of the way from your ego!
Performance –
Depends on many things that we don’t have under our control.
In reality, we need confidence or trust in things that we do…
When you trust yourself you are detached.
You don’t overthink, you trust your abilities.
In relationships, trust is needed when we are vulnerable and get hurt…
Over attachment is a control problem…
We want to control our spouse and environment … and that is the best to get shipwrecked.
My Video: Detachment Will Change Your Life! https://youtu.be/AnVkt1QHWa0
My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Detachment-Will-Change-Your-Life.mp3