If we have empathy for people, we have to learn to separate us emotionally from them…
We have a mission, we have likes and dislikes and we want to get our desires fulfilled…
But then it happened our friend or our neighbor needs our emotional help when we are going on a date… Sure, you go on your date… and later you might help…
Or we think that we have to be together with this person because this person needs our help.
We build up an unhealthy relationship that hurts us more than help us. We can help, but we don’t need to help… We should never be in an unhealthy emotional relationship where we suffer… Close your emotionally border and you can decide to help…
For instance, my previous girlfriend has cancer in the third state and the conventional medication and care for the cancer will kill her. For the same time, she has so often cheated me and so many other people in a big way… That I have forecasted that she will end in a prison… But she got cancer instead of to go into the jail…
In any case I have even to pay the treatment… What to do?
Be honest and tell what you like to do, even so you like to help her… And it is also a big emotional burden, to heal somebody where you had been together with…
Solution?
In any case her healing depends on herself… Even she gets healed, and thus she will, it is her job to follow up what I recommend to her… To advice is simple to follow up is difficult…
This means no identification with her healing, because every ego trip (I have healed her…) brings us more identification and so more sorrow…
If she doesn’t do what I tell her, it is over for me and I am out of this drama!
This happened already one time, she wanted to follow up the conventional path… And I said no. Now every day it is getting better… It works even we have 2 more options to heal the cancer…
Again, if she gets healed, then this happened through her commitment and not by me!!!!
For sure, in the meantime, I cannot be together with another girl, this doesn’t mean that I sleep with her or have an emotional relationship with her…
She has freedom and me…
All the time I go my path and I help her. She has to adapt to my timetable as I adapt to her timetable…
My Video: How your empathy can kill you https://youtu.be/lz7g5dPnF6g
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