The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships is a form of couples-based therapy and education derived from the relationship research of psychologist John Gottman. For more than 40 years, Gottman has identified and tested the elements that contribute to enduring relationships.
The concept of the Gottman Method is based on research from both healthy and unhealthy relationships.
However, the problem with the Gottman Method is that it does not adequately recognize the traumas that hinder us from having healthy relationships.
All of our struggles and problems in relationships are rooted in our childhood experiences.
Until we address the traumas from our childhood that prevent us from forming healthy relationships, we cannot truly connect with our spouse, children, or friends.
The first step must be to work through our traumas with therapy!
Once we have begun this process, we can then try to apply the concepts of the Gottman Method. If the Gottman Method is not working in our relationships, we must continue to work through our traumas with a therapist until we can foster healthy relationships using the Gottman Method.
Both partners, husband and wife, must engage in this process! It makes sense!
We need to release our traumas and discover our inner child and its vulnerabilities to regain our capacity for love. Daily meditation can help keep our hearts open.
Our partner should be the most important person in our lives, and this must hold true for both individuals in the relationship (as Tony Robbins suggests).
In today’s world, many people prioritize their phones above all else. It’s essential to break free from this addiction; otherwise, you may struggle to maintain healthy relationships.
One of the major tenets of the Gottman Method is that couples require five times more positive interactions than negative ones.
While this concept emphasizes calmness and affection, it can feel unrealistic.
We all carry wounds and traumas from our childhood that can surface in our relationships.
The Gottman Method can unintentionally overlook these traumas, treating individuals as if they are computers that can be easily reprogrammed.
This perspective is misguided.
People are emotional beings in emotional relationships.
If you suppress your negative feelings, you also suppress your capacity for love and positive emotions.
We should strive to trust one another and consult each other during difficult situations.
If there is a lack of trust or faith in your partner, the relationship may be at risk.
We must trust our partners even in challenging circumstances.
Additionally, we need to accept all of our partner’s emotions.
Without this acceptance, fostering a truly fulfilling relationship is difficult.
With the Gottman Method, there is a risk of learning to fake a good relationship while suppressing our negative emotions.
My Video: The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships https://youtu.be/zPPbmoYx9Ho
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