When we get older we want and need more time for ourselves and to reflect on ourselves.
When we are young we need to interact with many people.
To experience something new.
To exchange our opinions/experiences with others.
To get friends.
To partying.
To get group experiences.
To be together with same-minded people.
Not to be alone and isolated.
To love.
After, we have all these experiences we want more time for ourselves and not to be distracted.
Having many friends means that we lose our energy for maintaining friendships and to contact regularly our friends …
How to make that when you have your own family?
Time is limited.
At 65, I found out that stepping back from relationships that don’t give me a lot…
It is about protecting my peace, valuing my time, and focusing on what truly matters.
So the older you become the more precious becomes your time.
Your time becomes limited.
Relationships are changing and solitude has become a source of joy rather than loneliness.
Times feel more precious than ever.
Time is no longer infinitive.
When we were younger we thought we had all the time in the world.
We wasted time on:
Meaningless conversations.
Relationships that didn’t fulfill us
Or meaningless obligations.
And now every moment feels like a gift.
This shift doesn’t come from fear but from wisdom.
Time is the foundation of how I choose to live my life.
Every moment becomes more important.
A good conversation feels deeper fulfilling.
Moments of silence feel good.
Don’t waste time on meaningless conversations.
Discriminate is this worth my energy and time… When not go!
Does it bring me joy, is it in alignment with my values… When not go…
We want Meaningful conversations where we can express ourselves fully so can do the other.
No waste of our time.
Let go of what never serves you…
Focus on what matters.
Time is what you do with that.
If you value time you shift your life.
Relationships change and so do we…
Most relationships are not for your entire life.
Some relationships nurture you while others deplete you.
Apply the 80/20 rule. This means you get with 20% of your efforts, 80% of your results.
So let go of the 80% that doesn’t give you the fulfillment.
We got hurt by people that we trusted.
Disappointed by those I relied on.
Distance from family members whose path is in a different direction from my path.
People change so you do and let go of what doesn’t fit anymore.
A good relationship is balanced between giving and receiving.
Do they listen to you as much as they speak to you?
Reduce your friends to people that matter for you.
And don’t regret the friends that you separate from…
Value your time.
Don’t hold on to friends/ family members out of guilt or obligation.
Trust is what we should give when it is deserved instead of risking failures or cheating.
Walk away from toxic relationships and trust that this is okay.
Check the person again and again and build up so trust.
Trust is also to trust your intuition.
Simplicity
Today relationships are feeling unnatural through social media…
Nobody has time, to text when speaking, even after intercourses doing direct social media.
Instead of being physically together without distraction from social media… Today that is rare!
The results are isolation… People feel isolated.
Slow down and focus on the things that you do without rushing!
5. Solitude isn’t Loneliness
Solitude and Loneliness are two entirely different things.
Loneliness is an ache, an emotion that comes from longing for connection.
Solitude is a choice, a space for peace, reflection, and renewal, to look inward.
To accept the situation you are in, your thoughts and emotions.
To learn from mistakes instead of beating yourself up.
Find gratitude for the things that you got…
My Video: Why Do People Over 60 Avoid Others? https://youtu.be/jn9il4Atsvg
My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast4/Why-Do-People-Over-60-Avoid-Others.mp3