My video: What is the worst for communications/ relationships https://youtu.be/j2Gd8e4enC8
If we want to to get something. If our intention is to get something from a person, these can mean, we are bored, want to kill time, want to convince somebody from our opinion, want to sell something, want not to be alone… After a short time, the other person can feel that and turns away!
For instance, at the beginning of my dating career, I was running after the girls… That never worked out, because the girls recognized my intention, and didn’t like to have a needy guy… When I was turning around, the girls were running after me… Because I didn’t need to be together with a girl and that attracts… And so it is nearly with everything… If we are needy, we push that person/desire/goal away from us.
Our intention should be: “To Give” when we like to contact a person. We like to hear what the other person is telling, we consult or give the information that the person need, or we enjoy our time…
The best is that we are aware, of why we want to connect with that person. Otherwise, we get fast hurt, if the other person is turning away or that we connect with the wrong person when we are needy…
As an introvert, I like to build up my self-esteem, and then I connect with people. Because it is much nicer to share my presents with other people and to be able to give out of pleasure.
The other thing is, if we need something urgently, for sure we should ask and be humble… Almost everybody loves to help a humble person… That is a total difference, because if we surrender to a person for help, then we lift up his ego, and we don’t use that person…
The next worse habit is to be dishonest, cheating, for sure after some time mostly all people are disgusted from that.
The third worst habit is to be arrogant, or this habit: I know that already, or I have this already… Because our heart is closed and can’t be open for other people.