If I have problems in different areas of my life, the difficulties seem to be different, in reality, they are not. Because I differentiate what is easy to solve and what is difficult.
And so I set up for success or to failure!
For instance, without bragging, I have the confidence that I can solve every technical problem even it looks so that I can’t solve the problem.
After some struggles or after very much struggle the technical problem is solved.
And I wonder why I can not do the same in different areas of my life? There must be something wrong!!!
I hate violence and to fight and that my whole life. After this, I must be a terrible fighter!
The opposite is true. This means, I even can be good at things that I hate. For instance, since 20 years I don’t like to be involved in technical problems, still, I am good in this.
On the other hand, I love to be good in art, like music… and even I try my best, I can’t be good.
If I would have the confidence then I could solve mainly all problems.
Now, we make a list of what we are already good and in which subject we like to improve.
We analyze for every subject why we are good or bad?
Which of our strategies leads to success or to failure?
Why can we or can’t we do the thing?
What is wrong or right with us? Self-critique is the first step to improvement. (Bible)
What is the root of our failure or of our success? Be concrete!
What held us back to become what we want?
Is it possible that we want to become or get something where we have not the right abilities or dispositions?
If you think that you can be everything then ask yourself why you can’t.
For instance, if I like to be a great musician then I have to train 8 hours every day for at least 5 years. If I don’t have the interest to learn music for 8 hours every day I can’t become a great musician!
This example shows why we fail! Because we have not the love or passion to be good in this subject.
Why was I good at fighting? I had to fight as a kid every day. Because the Catholics didn’t like me as an atheist and so were beating me up everywhere! The fear to get hurt and to feel pain during fighting made me good in fighting.
Our fears and passions drive our life. After the research, our fears of pain and failure determine by 80% our life. To become successful we need the fears to motivate us.
We need a strong reason to overcome any obstacle and with faith, we can solve every problem.
My Video: Why we fail and why we win? https://youtu.be/R7cc8nHRESY
My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.
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