How to build a healthy relationship?

At the beginning of the relationship, we like to be our best, give our best to our darling…
Because we love. Love makes us blind…
Later we are looking, what we get out of this relationship and don’t like to invest anymore so much in our relationship…
Because the love is over!

And then we like to adjust to the circumstances, and ignore the problems in the relationship…
So we go along with that .., no problem, we are tolerating the problems, put a blind eye on them…
Instead of transforming or solving the problems…
Because it is too much for us…

If you maintain your car, you have to change the engine oil,… then you have fewer problems with the car…
If you don’t do so, it will hit you much harder, the engine is broken,…
So we have constantly to invest in our car so we have to do it with our relationships… Instead, to wait until it is too late.

Whatever you are tolerating in the relationship, you make it okay and the relationship is getting worse.
Stop to invest in the relationship and to ignore the negative signals …
Day by day the relationship is going worse by tolerating the problems…
After some time, even the best relationship is broken.

If we watch our problems in the relationship and are not dealing with them, again the relationship is over.

It is not enough,
if only one person is investing in that relationship and hoping it will get better after some time.
Or we try to manipulate our behavior with our partner…

We have to speak out about our problems with our partner, otherwise, the relationship is over…

The next strategy is to try our best to please our partner, to make our partner happy…

This will not work out either, because we can’t do so…
It is not our job to make our partner happy!

We should try to be authentic and accept fully our partner.
If we can’t accept our partner, or our partner can’t accept us, we can’t build in any case a healthy relationship.

This means also, it is okay if our partner is angry or even angry with us…

We are 100% responsible for our emotions and we can’t blemish that our partner has made us angry!

If we are together and not trying to manipulate our partner but to accept our partner, communicate about our problems and solve in a healthy way our problems, then we are in a healthy relationship.

That gives us the freedom to be authentic and to be in contact with our partner.

My Video: How to build a healthy relationship? https://youtu.be/m72CIaxlE3E
My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast2/How-to-build-a-healthy-relationship.mp3

 

 

 

 

 

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