When we clear our shame and guilt, we increase our deserve level.
You can’t manifest something meaningful if you don’t feel worthy of it.
Clear out your shame and guilt, and your deserve level goes up.
If you set goals that have high value for you, you increase your deserve level.
If you do lower-level things that don’t fit your agenda, or resent other people’s values, or feel shame or guilt, you hold yourself back from doing the great things you want to do—and deserve to do.
Take the time to clear your shame and guilt.
And say: Hey, I deserve that.
Be willing to do what is necessary to accomplish what you want. Nothing in this world is free—so do those things with the feeling that you deserve them.
How to Clear Shame and Guilt
Shame is when you assume you have done—or not done—something that caused you drawbacks, negativity, or more loss than gain.
Guilt is when you have done something that led to a negative outcome for another person.
Both lead to symptoms in your life, such as:
Overconsumption of food
Compulsive shopping
Altruistic actions to sacrifice something for others, just to feel better about yourself
These are all signs of shame and guilt.
When we diminish ourselves through shame and guilt, we hold ourselves back from our magnificence.
The reality is that we received valuable life lessons through our failures and drawbacks.
Guilt and shame no longer serve us.
Altruistic behavior is often a compensation for our shame and guilt from the past.
Exercise: Clear Your Shame and Guilt Inventory
Make a list of anything you have done—or not done—in your life that you wouldn’t want other people to know about. Write down your shame and guilt inventory.
For every shame or guilt answer these 3 questions.
1. What I did or didn’t do
What did they gain or benefit?
2. Who was impacted? (everyone who witnessed it)
3. How did this action serve them? What did they gain or benefit?
Example: … … …
Look again and again until you find the benefits for them.
What were the upsides? What were the downsides?
Remember: everything has two sides, and both sides have the same size.
If we resent people for things they have done, it’s often because we have done the same and feel shame or guilt.
When we clear our shame and guilt, we no longer resent others.
As the Bible says in Romans: “What we judge in other people, we do the same.”
The Trap of Pride
Pride is the opposite of shame, and it also affects us negatively—because we see only the upsides and refuse to see the downsides.
We must balance pride as well, to become neutral. If we don’t, it can lead to extremes like narcissism.
When we minimize or exaggerate ourselves, it harms us.
If you are infatuated with something, you don’t want to see the downsides.
If you resent something consciously, you don’t want to see the upsides in the unconscious.
This also weakens our immune system.
All these fantasies about the perfect partner, perfect outcomes, and perfect life are unrealistic.
Until you see and experience both sides, you don’t live a balanced life.
Otherwise, you live with the false expectation that you must always be good, always kind.
Forget all that B.S. you read on Facebook, written by idiots—that is 100% hypocrisy.
The same B.S. is preached by the Dalai Lama, yet in his monasteries, they beat children.
The Dalai Lama says anger is bad—but he doesn’t understand. He only repeats learned doctrines that are wrong.
I use my anger to be productive. It is a great force—now I can do the things I don’t like.
True Perfection
The perfection of yourself includes everything:
All emotions
All upsides and downsides
All failures and successes
When you embrace all of it, you become balanced.
And then you feel gratitude for everything that happened to you.
Liberate yourself from guilt and shame.
My Video: Increase Your Deserve Level https://youtu.be/mL7nByrqfh8
My Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast5/Increase-Your-Deserve-Level.mp3