We want love and then we are going to the wrong people and suffer, or we chose the wrong moment and get a slap in our face…. There must be something wrong, why we act in a such stupid way? I have seen many times, when I was not open for a new love story then I got target from girls… And the same I have done by myself… Then I thought, I am very attractive, when I am over cool and don’t like to be together with women…? Maybe we need this slap in our face? If we run behind women/men, they run away, because they recognize our intension… if we need their love, then how can these people produce this love? On the other hand we want much more then love… our body want sex… If we need love, then we should give us first love…. If we love ourself, then we are attractive for the others… It is a different story, if we are very desperate and then people like to help us, because they have compassion for us… .
The same story is, if we are attracted to people, who don’t care for us. Then we are starting to get attention from them or even to make many things for them in order to be attractive for them. To the same time there are quite a lot of people who loves/likes us, but we ignore them even they are doing quite a lot for us… Maybe they are not attractive or we run after this slap in our face…?
Life is too short to waste a single second with anyone who doesn’t appreciate or value us.
The next best strategy, that brings us great suffering is, that we want that everybody is loving us, maybe this is still alive from our babyhood… A normal baby knows already to which people it should go to get love and attention, the other people it will omit. Different people like different people, so that it is impossible to be loved from everybody. My previous Guru Bhagwan said, for every friend I make, I get a new enemy – after the law of polarity. The wisdom of Buddha is, to be friendly and kindly to everybody without having any relationship. Because relationship is sorrow (Buddha). This means if we selflessly love and serve everybody, then we are beyond worldly matters… and even we get beaten up, we create out of every arrow a bunch of roses (Buddha). Is this not a beautiful poem? Or if we get a slap in our right side of our face, we should turn our face and beg for the next slap on our left side face… (Jesus). Love your self first… You are the most important person in your life…