After a research in Germany, 95% of the mothers think that they are perfect…
What for a nonsense!!!!!
We don’t need to be perfect as parents, we need only be loving and forgiving.
We know that we don’t have the children under our control and so not their education. Still we can give them our love, compassion and forgiving….
If we have a seed of a tree and if we put it in the right soil and give it water, the tree will grow. We don’t have the tree under our control, that we really can determine how the tree will grow with all the branches, trunk and the leaves and this is beautiful. We only need to give the seed the right soil, enough water and fertilizer.
There are so many ego trips from the parents to model their child in a certain direction instead to let the child grow individual and to give the support that the child needs to become the best for itself. What I mean, my parents want for instant, that I become a businessman and not an engineer or Meditation Master….
The next mistake is, that the parents want to be the best parents. How can we become the best parents? What are the best parents? For whom they are the best parents? It is the best that we get rid of all these great moralities/principles like: never to beat our child…to be always ready to serve your child…. Instead to forgive ourself that we are not perfect…
Through their high moralities the parents forget their own feelings and after some time the negative feelings had pilled up and they are getting very angry with their child, they become impatience and punish the child like crazy for everything…. Everybody had seen this scenery already.
The solution is simple, if the parents are not enjoying their life, then the child has to suffer. Think over and be honest, can you love, when you are under stress, anxious, unhappy or depressed?
Isn’t it better not to be the perfect parents, but to be happy parents? What I have seen, beating of a child isn’t the problem (I know, you will protest) but a lack of love and forgiveness are the problems for every child. I have seen it again and again in India, the children were beaten, but with this great love of their parents they didn’t care. Mata Amritananda Mai said, if I hand out a good trashing including an abuse an Indian, he will come back smiling after a half hour; if I give an European or American an angry look, he will be depressed for the next three weeks…. And this is so true… Convinced?
Children need love very much and this is very important and not no violence… or other great moralities. The greatest thing is love and this is greater than to keep the Ten Commandments (Bible, letter Romans). All we need is love, love, love (Beatles)