It can be hard. And it happens to everybody.
If we have the chance to avoid this liar, just do it.
If not, we have to protect us.
I was together with a liar and cheater in a love relationship.
My first step was how to identify when my dear one is lying!
When I was finding it out that she lied, she got agitated. At the moment when I stopped blemish her for lying, her anger was over. And this is the proof that the person is lying. Because if we blemish the liar, the liar will perform anger to protect his/her integrity. If we change the talk, the shown anger is over.
The other step is to write down what the liar has told you… And if the liar is changing his lies, we recognize it.
If we realize that the other person is lying, we don’t need to mention that, because it will hurt the liar.
The reason for lying might be through the different culture.
In the Western World, for instance, in Germany, it is terrible to lie. In Thailand is lying okay, if the person doesn’t want to hurt you or confront you or do not want to lose his face. For instance, I wanted to get window grills, and the smith had given me a too low price… He never came to my house, nor he gave a reason not to install the grills… Because he didn’t like to lose his face.
What makes the lying to our own psychology?
If we need something urgently from the liar, we have a lot of fear. We don’t know can we trust or not trust… Our own inner monsters are coming up, what is when not? Why should we believe this liar?
Many years, I was confronted with lies.- It was stressful, never the less I learned a lot to have trust even everything is running against me.
What to do?
Everything is God, and God has everything under his control.
How can somebody lie or cheat you, if you have trust in God?
I choose that I am thankful for every outcome. That looks really crazy.
The reality is and was: So more I am afraid or mistrust so more I got cheated and lied.
If we can keep cool, the situation is easy. This means we make the situation worse because we demand something urgently. So more we demand so more we distract our beloved outcome!
Trust in God and don’t trust to 100% people. I got even cheated by my best friends…
Look that you can always check the trusted person… For instance, a guy who has a superior position or wealth than you don’t care if he cheats you or not. Don’t trust such person!!!
I got more cheated and lied by people in higher position or very wealthy than from anybody else!!!
My video: What to do when you are together with a liar? https://youtu.be/0FhtKE8Yb5M
My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.
My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/4/What+to+do+when+you+are+together+with+a+liar..mp3