A single mother has up to 95% (it depends on the country) fewer chances to find a new spouse…
The main focus on the single mother is on her child … And that will never work out for any good relationship. The most important part of our life should be our spouse. (A. Robinson)
The child is jealous of the new boyfriend. Because the new boyfriend is getting more attention from her mother at certain moments.
In any marry tale we read about the wicked step-mother or step-father… The reality is that the child is hostile against every step-father or step-mother. The step-father has never any chances to get accepted from the child if the mother is not encouraging that.
In a conflict, the mother is playing out her child against her new spouse. The spouse is alone fighting against the child and the mother… And afterward, the spouse is hostile against the child. Never use your child as a weapon!!!
The step-father has to support the child and can’t teach the child any morality or any life-strategy. Because he is not the father.
And the child will not follow up because:
1.) It is hostile to the step-father.
2.) To adapt to any morality or life-strategy is difficult and if it is not his loving father, the kid, even more, dislikes to adapt…
The stepfather has to support the child and has less power over that child … Which father wants to be in that terrible situation?
When the new spouse is giving the kid new life-strategies, the mother has to encourage the kid until the kid is doing what the step-father wants. The life-strategies should be good,
and the life-strategies do not need to be the same as the mother’s life-strategies.
It is very hard to understand for any mother that there exist men who have a higher living standard than themselves. Because nearly every mother thinks that she is perfect….
If the mother thinks she is perfect and superior to her spouse,- there is no chance that this relationship will work out.
If the relationship ends the step-father will lose both…
Ask yourself as a single mother:
For what is the new spouse?
Do you really want to corporate and enforce the kid to corporate with the new spouse?
If the relationship between your kid and new spouse is not working out, there is no chance to have a good relationship!!!
My Video: Why a single mother can’t find a new spouse? https://youtu.be/ekZxjcoFEMs
My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.
My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+a+single+mother+can%E2%80%99t+find+a+new+spouse.mp3