When I was a child I never have seen a great love relationship only awful relationship problems…
And I saw my parents mostly arguing and fighting; my father had always a girlfriend… When I left them, they said we had a fantastic marriage, … Blah, Blah…. That was for me too much, I never saw them again.
Our problem is that we are anxious to get hurt and like to live an easy relationship, no problems anymore… And we gain the opposite.
It is so if we stand in the middle on a road and imagine that no car will run in us….
And if a car is bumping in us we blemish the car.
When we close our heart to protect us, we can’t feel the pain or the love. And our relationship becomes more and more superficial with very hurtful moments.
Why do we get in any way hurt?
If we would be perfect, nobody can hurt us.
In us, we have stored all these terrible moments that are quite often happening in any relationship and we didn’t feel the pain.
One single drop can bring the barrel to overflow…
We can’t avoid feeling the pain!
What to do?
The pain of our relationship has closed our heart and we are afraid to feel that pain or to get hurt again.
If we try to open our heart we commit to being open-minded and open-heart.
If we are not aware of our true feelings and thoughts, we never can live a true love.
1.) Why can’t you feel your love?
2.) Why are you anxious not to feel what is inside of you?
3.) Where is your pain?
4.) Why can’t you open your heart?
5.) What are you afraid of?
Our two biggest fears in the relationship are:
1.) Not to be good enough.
2.) And that our spouse doesn’t love us.
Are all of our self-made rules are working for a good relationship?
For an instant, we expect that our spouse is emptying the trash or cleaning the toilet….
If we attached to our relationship, we can’t live our love.
Because our spouse and ourselves are changing.
When we are attached to an older version of our spouse the love will end soon.
I could not open my heart by myself, I was consulted by a Biodynamic therapist in my relationship problems. All of my problems in the relationship were related to my childhood.
After the session with my therapist, I meditated and looked that I don’t make the same mistake…
Even I tried so hard, I got hurt again and again in my relationship and then I went to my therapist…
And so my love got deeper and deeper… instead to live with a closed heart.
Without the help of my therapist, I would have gained only a fraction of my love, happiness, and spirituality. And later God was coming to me, even I was an atheist.
Love is great. And a life without love is useless.
My Video: Why does the love end? https://youtu.be/tLL5TJp3Jqw
My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.
My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/Why+does+the+love+end.mp3