To be alone is to be in a weird company…?
Here start the problem, that we feel uneasy to be alone, that we afraid to go alone to a place, to ask strangers, instead to enjoy it…. Sometimes we feel minor because we are alone or we think nobody loves us.
The problem is, that we think that other people think bad about us, when we are alone…. In reality nobody is caring for us, when we are alone under strangers. Everybody is focused on himself, even when we are together with somebody, we are not that important …. Everybody lives in his/her world…. so that we even remain alone, if we are exchanging our opinion….
Now comes the point, it might be provoking: Franz Kafka said: If I would tell you everything from me, all the suffering I went through… you still can’t understand me… Oscar Wild: I am my greatest mysterious, – this means we even can’t understand ourself, how can we understand other people. Hans Fallada wrote the book: Every man dies alone…. and so he lives…. With other words: WE ARE ALWAYS ALL ONE.
This so called harmony between humans had almost not exist, because of our ego… The ego separates us, without our ego we would be ALL ONE.
How would it be, if we would build up enough self-esteem to love ourself? Or if we start to define ourself, instead to create an image from our self in order to get approval?
There is an old saying for relationships: Who cannot live alone, can’t live together, because how he/she can love, if he/she depend on his/her spouse. Love is only possible when both are independent and not be enslaved. And this is also true for every relationship.
If we can’t make our yoga, meditation, music, exercise alone, then we need somebody to do it together… and not always we find somebody. I make my things, because I am convinced of it, regardless my spouse joins me or not… I want for me the results or the pleasure….
In my family we had two twins, 1 year distance and my oldest sister 3 years older, I was in the last twin. For me it was not possible to be alone and my twin brother (two eggs twin) was my complementary partner, like a couple… How should I develop myself, and find out what is fitting to me, if I would not get the space to be alone?