The disease of the Introverts and Perfectionists…
You can do it, or you can learn… Failure is only possible if you can’t learn from your wrongdoing or if you can’t forgive yourself…
There is always a second chance when you have learned from your wrongdoing!
If you are a perfectionist… Think always, it is good enough and nothing is perfect. Everything can fail… Only God is perfect…
All of these regrets and to feel guilty are based that we can’t live our own moralities/standards or ethics…
For example, you are a male and fail in the bed. That is usually for males the most painful situation in their life,… Even every man will fail or has been unable in the bed at least one time. And females don’t understand why males take that failing so dam seriously.
Solution: Say sorry, that I was unable to sleep with you, and this has nothing to do with you, and that has happened before. This always happens if I am too excited, too much under pressure, or have too much stress. Please forgive me that I could not sleep with you.
(But don’t say that you have slept with another girl an hour before!!!)
What is if you are addicted or have done something awful (had an accident, lost your job…).
You feel guilty, and this guilt keeps you in your addiction or in your bad consciousness…
So longer you go the wrong track or feel guilty so worse it becomes…
The solution is easy, you choose to speak openly about your feelings, your regrets to your friends, family, colleagues. If you can’t disclosure your emotions, your thoughts then go to a therapist…
And even better you share your emotions with people who are in the same situation and who have overcome your problem… For instance, the AA (Anonymous Alcoholics) is a self-help organization for all kinds of addiction….
If we have messed up in our relationships or profession…
First, we should analyze our moralities/standards and ask ourselves:
Do our moralities really serve us?
Are our standards not too high?
Have we decided or lived wrong because our moralities are not fitting us?
Are our ethics designed for feeling guilty?
Did we overtake consciousness or unconsciousness our standards from our parents?
Could our parents live their standards?
Second, if we have done wrong, apologize immediately, Sorry, I have done wrong, and I try to compensate that…
Was the input for your job as promised or enough?
Did you honestly have a chance to accomplish your goal or job?
Very often, we agree to something that we never have a chance to accomplish or do accordingly…
Before we promise anything, we must feel good about it… For instance, it is quite hard to get from me any promise… For what should I give a promise when it is not necessary?
In relationships, we don’t have our partner under our control, and that is the beauty of a lovely relationship…
We try our best. And through misunderstanding, we encounter tragedies, … That is normal.
Forgiveness and gratitude for remaining in our love-relationship are a must to fondle the devotion to our lover!
So what, we don’t know what will happen in the next years… If the relationship is not fitting anymore, or the love is over, separate…
Be grateful for the good time you are in the relationship and go on in your life!
When you start something new, then very often you have done it wrong in the past.
For instance, I have begun with Feng Shui… And after adopting the rules of Feng Shui I must admit, my previous life-time would have been much easier if I would have integrated Feng Shui in my life sooner…
So what, should I beat myself up or should I be happy that I have invited Feng Shui in my life?
When you grow older, you have made so many mistakes that you don’t care anymore…
My Video: How to forgive yourself? https://youtu.be/WouiqKO0yFw
My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.
My Audio: https://rudizimmerer.s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/5/How+to+forgive+yourself.mp3