The lack of Awareness of our feelings and thoughts is the source of misunderstanding, wrong decision, wars and an unhappy life. Without awareness we can’t build up a good attitude, because we are not aware what is inside of us.
For instance: the great psychologist Alice Miller was together with a mother and her 4 year old daughter in a kindergarten. The daughter didn’t like to play, was depressed…Alice asked, what is going on? The mother said, her father was leaving for a work abroad and she is missing him. The child started to cry; when she finished crying, she could play with the other children.
If even the children are not aware of their feelings what is about us?
We are getting many times frustrated, sad, angry; and afterward we suppress our feelings. After some time we get confronted and release our suppressed feelings on a person who doesn’t has anything to do with that… we blemish this person for our negative feelings…
We can see that in relationships, the husband is coming home… loaded with anger and getting fast very angry with his child; or in almost every business meeting, we see the participants are driven from their own personal motives, instead to look for the best outcome for everybody….
This means we look honesty as often as possible, how are our feelings now. When we don’t be aware of our feelings, we still can watch our thoughts as witness without manipulating our thoughts…. The feelings creating our thoughts, if we have angry thoughts, we have also anger inside of us, even we are not aware of it.
If we are confronted with a new situation and if we are aware of our feelings what we had before; then this will be the game changer. Because we don’t have to project our previous feelings on this new situation/person.
For instance, I am aware that I am angry on my chief and didn’t had the chance to release my anger. When I get confronted with my chief again, I recognize my anger and can be neutral in this situation. If I would not recognize my anger, maybe I would be impolite, angry and would miss the chance to clarify our misunderstanding….
It is science proofed, if we watch something; through the watching we change the situation. This means, if we bring light in the room or in our consciousness, we will improve our attitude.
Meditation is: watch and let happen. Through the watching of our feelings and thoughts as witness, we become better and improve so our attitude.