The great Yogi Ramakrishna strongly avoided saying “I” or “my”.
A wife went to a doctor and asked him what she should do because her husband doesn’t like to have sex with her anymore. The doctor answered bring me your husband and I will solve the problem. The doctor said to her husband before you go to bed, go to the bathroom and in front of the mirror say 10 times: I don’t know her, and she is not my wife.
Problem solved! Because what we don’t know and don’t own is exciting.
If we say it is “my” friend then our ego assumes that we own our friend and that he is under our control. That is the reason why we are so angry if our friend does what we don’t like. And when we are married we think that we both own our spouse. After the separation our illusion is over, we have never owned our spouse and our spouse was never under our control. Because of our illusion, we own our spouse we suffered so hard.
Be thankful that you are together in a loving relationship.
How would you appreciate your time together, if you would think that your loving relationship can end every moment?
Our Ego likes to personalize everything so that even after some time an innocent PC, smartphone, car,… becomes a person. And if these things getting broken or don’t work we get angry.
As a kid, I have learned what I really owned. My mother said: close your eyes and what you see is yours.
We don’t own anything.
When the Greek emperor Alexander the Great died, he said: “Make two holes in the coffin and let my hands hang outside. Because everybody should see that I died with empty hands.”
All our accusation in this world are temporary and not under our control. Even it is so with our body or life. Without the grace of God, we are nothing.
Our Ego/I assumes that we are God that we have everything under our control…. Everybody experience devastating moments where we had been overwhelmed. Still, after some time, we think we have everything under our control. That is the incurable disease of our ego.
When we brag what we have done we can’t really see the reality. Because we depend on so many circumstances. And God punishes our bragging with worse moments.
Watch yourself when you brag, what will happen afterward?
Ramakrishna said:
God laughs
When a doctor said I have healed him.
When two brothers divide the land of their died father and say this land is yours and that land is mine.
Everything owns God!
Praise the Lord
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