If we can’t communicate openly about something we want we can’t get it!
Zava (on-line medical service) has done a survive about sex with more than 1000 couples across the USA and Europe.
The results are:
1.)Talking about sex leads to a better sex life!
2.) 54% improvements in sexual satisfaction once the communication has started regardless if the couple has been on a high level or low level of sexual satisfaction.
It is proved since over 50 years when the sex or communication is down the relationship is also down. We need a good communication about our problems and we need also good sex. Both are equal.
Why we can’t communicate about our sexual desires in front of our spouse?
Zava survey found out:
1.)We are scared to hurt our partner when we talk about our sexual desires.
2.)We are embarrassed to communicate about sex with our partner.
When we are scared to communicate about our problems with our partner, in any case, we hurt our relationship. We need trust for a good relationship and if we can’t speak about our feelings or sex we have a B.S. relationship.
Imagine, You have sex with your wife and your wife pretends always an orgasm, and didn’t have an orgasm with you. Even worse she used to have a great sex-life with her previous partner…
How would you feel, if she would stop to have sex with you after some years?
Do you think that both of you have missed out a great chance to bond together with a great sex life?
Is not communication about sex necessary at least for the females?
What is if your partner loves different sex position and never communicate about that?
For instance, I came across that females in Latin America don’t like the missionary position because they are afraid to face God when they have sex!
Even they like to have sex in the standing position. For me, this was totally weird.
What is if our partner loves to break taboos in sex and we don’t know it? We never can satisfy our loved one.
What about looking porno? There is a drastic difference between male and female.
The top three categories women view are Lesbian, Gay (male) and Teen Porn.
For men are: Teen, MILF, and Mature Porn.
We have to make sure that both of us enjoying their sex-life even we have to break our taboos in sex.
How to communicate about sex?
1.)Let your partner know when he/she did it well for you.
2.)Write a note what you love about sex instead to speak it out.
3.)Check out some sex books and read it together as inspiration.
4.) Get visual and see a porno together.
5.) Go slowly in the direction you want with your sex and communicate about that.
My Video: How to get your sex-life as you want it? https://youtu.be/6d8pwSIZ_go
My Audio on Podcast: RELAX WITH MEDITATION or see link in the end.
My Audio: https://s3-ap-southeast-1.amazonaws.com/rudizimmerer/5/How+to+get+your+sex-life+as+you+want+it.mp3