Identification is sorrow

Why is Identification sorrow or a big obstacle in our life.
If we are identified with: what we are; what we should fulfill; or what we want to fulfill, then we are under pressure or tension. Instead of to be relaxed. Under tension we lose 80% of our creativity…If we have a strong desire then there is a likelihood that we boycott/ self sabotage us. So more we want something, so more we push it from us. If we realize, that this is not so important or even we don’t need that, then the solution is there.
When I was an engineer, designing the navigation system of a satellite…. I had to design the software and the hardware for the navigation. When the hardware was ready, I wrote the complete software program within 3 hours… normally 3 weeks would be the work, because my subconscious had worked out the program when I was designing the hardware…. Just relax and the solution is there. Think over, if you would be under tension, do you think that you can find easily the solution… Then we are creating a drama/tragedy out of that… The most simple example is, we have to wait for cooking our water for the meal…. It needs so long… we call up a friend, in the mean time, the water is already vaporized, so we have to start again…but don’t call again… You see, it is sometimes difficult to write a blog, if I let go, that I have to write something, then writing is easy and makes fun… and creativity comes by itself… How is it, if we let go, that we have to do something, that we don’t be somewhere and that we don’t need something…. Then identification is over, we relax, Solution is there. Life is simple, if it is complicated, we make it complicated.